I have a career. I have friends. I have hobbies.
I am a strong and capable woman.
But you know what?
I get lonely.
I, like many others, would like a relationship.
But how and where do we find relationships? This is a question that has haunted me.
And so, I turned to dating apps.
For the past few years, I have utilized dating apps to go on many (and I mean many) dates.
I can now answer one big question:
Do guys on Tinder want a relationship?
Before we get into that, let me ask you this: have you ever heard of Tinder?
Of course, you have.
Tinder is the king of dating apps.
For those of you who don’t know how it works, it works like this:
- You create a profile. This involves choosing several pictures of yourself, writing a brief bio, and then filling out some basic background information (such as job, location, etc.).
- You start swiping. A profile will appear with a name, an age, and a picture. You can click through the photos or read the bio. You then swipe left or right to decide if you are interested.
- If both parties swipe right, you “match” and then can begin chatting.
Now you’re caught up. It’s super easy.
It has remained the most popular dating app for the past decade.
In fact, it is reported that in 2022, 75 million users are active every month.
75 million—if you’re wondering where all the men are at, there is a good chance they’re on Tinder.
And you know what? I’ve been one of the 75 million.
There is something satisfying about the validation of having random men swipe right on me (yeah, I know—how shallow of me).
But what is it all for? What comes from it?
As I scroll through thousands of profiles full of half-naked men and read chat messages that rival middle-school texting, I can’t help but wonder.
Maybe you, like me, ask myself—do men on tinder want relationships?
The short answer— unlikely.
The long answer— maybe?
I’m sorry to break it to you, but your chances of finding lasting love on Tinder are not always good and I’ll tell you exactly why.
Why Do Guys Use Tinder?
I’ve gone on 50+ tinder dates and have swiped hours of my life away.
In my experience, and most of my friends’ experience, and according to statistics from this study, about 4.16% of people on tinder want a relationship.
Do you know what they want?
Yes, you heard me right.
For those of you who are new in the world of online dating, you may not know this, but Tinder is notorious for being an app used by people for hooking up.
In the world of online dating, Tinder has gained itself a reputation for attracting individuals who want to have quick one-night stands.
And it is true.
Men on Tinder want sex.
They want something casual and something quick.
Unlike many of the other dating apps, like Hinge, Bumble, OkCupid, etc., Tinder is based solely on physical looks.
The only information you really get for choosing a match is what you can gather from their photos.
If you want to you can read a brief bio (which very few people do).
Matches are based on physical attraction.
Why does he keep looking at my online dating profile?
And, while physical attraction is important to any relationship and there is nothing wrong with it, a long-term relationship must have more than that to be successful.
I would like to add here that there are some anomalies on Tinder.
I have met some extraordinary men who are seeking genuine connections and relationships, but they are few and far between.
And so then we must ask the next question—how do we use Tinder for actual relationships?
Especially if the majority of people on the app just want a quick hookup?
Well, if you’re wondering this, you have come to the right place.
Can You Find a Relationship on Tinder?
Yes, you can!
I’m going to give you some advice as someone who did find a relationship through a dating app.
From woman to woman, here are my tips:
- Decipher if they want a relationship.
- Be honest with your intentions.
- Don’t waste time.
Decipher if They Want a Relationship
This is so important!
People are on tinder for all kinds of reasons.
The biggest reasons are hookups, attention, boredom, and a relationship.
It can be difficult to tell what the men you are chatting with want.
I mean, how do you know if a guy wants a relationship on Tinder?
Do you know what the easiest way to tell is?
For the most part, men will be honest with you.
If you are still unsure, take a look at their profile and ask yourself these questions:
- What kind of pictures do they have? Do they look like they’re after a meaningful connection?
- What kind of conversation are you having with them? Are they asking questions about you? Do they care to get to know who you are?
- Are they wanting to meet in person? What kind of date are they suggesting? Does it seem like they are utilizing the date to get to know you (and not to sleep with you)?
Once you’ve asked yourself these questions, I have a feeling you’ll be able to tell what they want.
It is important to use your best judgment!
Online dating is tricky.
But don’t be afraid to just ask what they are looking for.
I can’t emphasize that enough.
This leads me to my next point.
Be Honest With Your Intentions
A good relationship is founded on honest communication!
If you are looking to get to know someone, don’t be afraid to tell them that!
Disclaimer: I would not go around telling people you’d like to find a serious relationship right off the bat.
Don’t be too intense!
You might scare away some people.
But it is important to say that you’re looking to go on dates and see where things go.
That’s a much more casual (and not super intense) way to make it clear you don’t just want to hook up!
Don’t Waste Time
You will get many matches.
You will have an unlimited amount of profiles to scroll through.
It can be fun to chat your life away with cute singles in your area.
But remember why you’re using the app!
If killing time is your goal, then go for it!
Why online dating doesn’t work?
But if you want to develop deep connections, be realistic about what you want.
Only swipe on people you are interested in pursuing.
Unmatch people you don’t see a future with.
Your time and life are too important to waste on people who won’t make your life better!
It also helps them; nobody wants to waste time not getting what they want
Because the truth is, you can find a relationship on Tinder.
Thousands of people do it every week.
Do Tinder Relationships Last?
They absolutely can.
This study found that, after a year of tracking people, individuals who used Tinder were more likely to be in a relationship.
Take that as you will.
My best friend has been married for five years to one of her Tinder dates!
She is one of many success stories I could share.
If you have the right attitude and you want to find a genuine relationship, you can!
I would just remember that to use Tinder for actual relationships, you need to be honest about your intentions and look for like-minded individuals!
They are there.
I hope you find them.
Good luck with your search!