When a Guy Hangs Out With a Girl Alone
A relationship that lacks communication will never work out
Trust helps keep two people together
“Girl don’t do it. It’s not worth it. I’m not going to do it girl, I’m just thinking about it.” … “I did it..”
You’re probably having some anxiety if you’re finding that your boyfriend is hanging out with a girl while in a relationship.
I know that you want to triple text him, figure out ways to snoop through his messages, and spiral out of control… but DON’T DO IT just yet!
Before accidentally blowing up your whole relationship, take a deep breath and read this.
First and foremost, you’re his girlfriend, right?
You already have the title over her!
That in itself should be a bit comforting for you.
Repeat after me ladies!
“He chose me!
He wants to be with me!”
Past failed relationships make it easy to forget that you’re wanted, needed, and loved.
You should not only remind yourself that you deserve love from someone, but you need to remind yourself that you deserve love from yourself, as well. I strongly believe in daily self-love.
By loving yourself you create a strong protecting barrier in case someone you love leaves your life.
You’re laying the foundation which helps make less of a mess after a heartbreak – but, I’m switching topics and that’s a post for a different day!
What’s important is that you both are committed to each other.
If you are truly important to him, he wouldn’t do anything to mess that up.
Now, in order to get a better sense of what’s going on we need to dig in deeper into your relationship!
In order for two people to work, the bond between them needs to be healthy.
If a partnership wants to work, then, most importantly, they need to have strong communication.
I’ve had enough practice to know that, if you can’t talk to each other, your friendship will eventually fade.
Without talking, conflicts can never be resolved.
If you can’t work through anything, you’ll never get anywhere.
It’ll feel like you’re constantly going around in a circle and you’ll find yourself in the exact same spot- like trying to explain your feelings when it comes to him hanging out with other girls.
You’ll get frustrated and the situation will only end messy and not how you want it to.
I know it’s hard, but in all relationships, it’s important to have some independence, as well.
You both should feel like you have space to breathe and be able to do the things that you enjoy.
Boyfriend Female Friends Boundaries
It’s okay to hang out with your friends or family without your partner.
In fact, it’s actually a toxic and narcissistic trait when it starts becoming an issue.
Time away from the relationship is healthy.
It creates space to miss each other and an opportunity to show trust.
I often find that my boyfriend becomes my best friend.
I usually want to spend time with him above anyone else, but I know that I need time with my friends.
I need those nights with my besties!
I need wine and reality TV, a little gossiping, and time spent doing activities that my boyfriend sometimes has to be pestered into doing.
Let’s make this clear. . . before him, I had a life.
In that life, friendships existed with both men and women.
It isn’t fair that any partner asks me to end my friendships because of their insecurities
That is where communication and trust comes into play.
If there are concerns, then they need to be talked about.
But it’s a two-way street ladies!
The same respect should be given to your man.
My Boyfriend Hung Out With a Girl and Didn’t Tell Me
If you’re reading this article, I’m guessing your relationship is probably already teetering on the very steeeeeeeeeeeeep edge to unhealthy.
There’s a fine line when it comes to trust.
Either you have it, or you don’t.
I want you to take a step back and think.
Did he break your trust or was it never given?
Your boyfriend lied about hanging out with a girl and you find out somehow.
If he broke your trust, why are you giving him another chance to break it again?
If he didn’t, then are you carrying in emotional baggage from the ghosts of your past relationships?
Think back to when you found out about him hanging out with other girls.
Was this something he shared with you?
Or did you catch him in a lie?
If he’s covering up hanging out with her, then he’s obviously trying to hide something.
Perhaps he just doesn’t want to upset you, but chances are there’s something more going on.
If that’s the case, I’m asking you, why do you want to be with him?
You know him better than most.
It’s important to make sense of the relationship he has with these women.
Are they friends?
Or, is there something more going on?
Keep reading to know the tell-tale signs if you really need to be worried or not.
As a single woman in my mid-twenties, I can definitely admit that I still don’t know everything when it comes to dating.
I’ve been through my fair share of relationships and it never seems to get easier, does it?
I’ve read all the recommended dating books, watched all the romantic comedies, and with a good bottle of wine I have helped myself and friends get through every crappy heartbreak.
I never used to believe the whole “Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars” saying, but every day it’s sounding more true.
Men and women think completely differently.
Most of the time, I find that they think logically.
While we, as women, think wholly.
By this, I mean that we think with our brains, hearts, and bodies.
But where does the mixup happen?
When does the miscommunication set in?
In your current relationship, are your emotions turning your boyfriend’s actions into red flags, or is it time to start panicking?
Here’s how to tell!
How to Tell if a Boyfriend Is Losing Interest
First, it’s important to figure out if your man is still into you or not.
Does he make you his priority?
When you start dating, most men will try and sweep you off your feet.
They will send you daily good morning and goodnight texts.
Take you out on dates.
But, has his behavior changed?
Has he stopped doing these things?
It’s common for actions to slow down a little bit, but is he no longer texting you anymore?
Is he blowing you off to hang out with his buddies?
Is he blowing you off to hang out with her?
Most of the men I’ve dated have lacked communication skills.
Some have wanted to learn, but some didn’t.
If they don’t want to sit down and have a genuine heartfelt conversation with you, then you need to start looking into his actions.
What are his commitments?
Does he have school, work, friends, family, or any hobbies?
It’s important that he has time to do the things that he enjoys, but he shouldn’t be constantly choosing them over you.
For instance, has he ever made plans with you but then his buddy calls and asks him to hang out?
Does he drop his plans with you and go out?
Or, does he tell his friend he’ll catch him another time?
Do you feel like he’s always putting you on the backburner?
Does he listen to you?
When you talk to him, do you feel like he understands what you are trying to say?
Does he try to ask questions if he doesn’t?
Or, does it seem like he just doesn’t care?
How Does a Boyfriend Respect His Girlfriend
It seems like he wants to be a part of your life.
He makes it clear that he’s a part of your life.
He shows interest in your hobbies and passions.
He wants to meet your friends.
He asks about your day.
He makes future plans with you
I think this is an obvious one.
If someone is making plans with you months or even years down the road, that’s because they picture you in it.
He shows PDA.
Most men like to show off what they have a little bit.
You’re one of them.
When you’re out in public, does he like to hold your hand?
Do you notice that he puts his hand on your knee?
I’m not talking about heavy groping at a public bar or them making you feel like you’re their property, but do they make you feel wanted when you’re out?
Or, does he hide you until you’re behind closed doors?
He doesn’t just care about sex
I hope that when it comes down to it, everything isn’t just about sex.
That he isn’t just doing things for you so the evening ends up in bed.
He shows up when you need him.
Even better, when a guy cries at the thought of losing you.
After a hard day, does he pick up the phone when you call?
God forbid, you ever find yourself sick or losing someone, is he there to help take care of you?
If your boyfriend is still into you, then it’s important that you try to talk to him.Communicate your fears and your concerns about him hanging out with other women.
Tell him how it makes you feel when he is with her.
However, if you’ve been going through the list and you’re starting to see signs that he’s not into you anymore, then this is what you need to do.
Remember, you are a WOMAN!
Remind yourself that, at the end of the day, you should never give anyone the power to make you feel less than the beautiful, smart, and confident person that you are.
You can win him back.
Why not learn how to pull away to make him want you.