Should a Girl Travel to See a Guy
Have you recently been considering taking your long-distance relationship with a guy to the next level?
But the distance is far, like he’s from an entirely different country far, and you’re not sure if you should go for it or not?
Well, my answer is yes!
Or at least you should look at it as an option, depending on your circumstances.
It’s never a bad thing to explore, get out of your comfort zone, and see the world; however, you should prepare and make sure you’ve thought this through.
Some things you should consider:
- Are you comfortable with the guy? How well do you know him?
- Have you done the proper research on him? yes, research all potential love interests!
- How stable is your relationship right now? Do you two argue and fight a lot, or do you have excellent communication with each other so far?
- Lastly, what’s possible? What would make it easy for this potential meeting to happen? Can you pull this off, and should you bother?
Making these possible life-changing decisions can at times feel overwhelming, maybe you’re thinking, wow, I like this guy a lot, we connect so well, he seems serious about starting a relationship with me, but he wants me to visit him in another country!
You might feel this is awesome! I’m head over hills, but I have no idea how I’m going to pull this off, or even if it’s worth trying?
Don’t you worry because I will help guide you through all of these difficult decisions, and as you read along, I’ll answer all of these questions and more!
I’ll also help you make the best choices you can for your situation!
Should I Travel for a Guy I Met Online?
You probably really want this to work out, and for everything to go perfect, for the angels to sing, etc.
But, you’re unsure if this is a good decision, you’re afraid, and you’re unsure if this will pan out the way you hoped.
Luckily for you, I have some excellent advice that will help you decide if you want to do this and if it’s something you should even consider.
First thing first, are you comfortable with this?
Flying to meet someone for the first time is a big deal!
I know that sometimes we should push ourselves out of our comfort zones, but just make sure your decision to travel to an entirely different country for someone you’re interested in is suitable for your happiness and well-being.
Consider things like:
- Do you like their country?
- What do you know about it?
- Have any information on the city they live in, even their neighborhood?
- How long will you be there, short-term or long-term?
- What will your living situation be like, and how much do you know about this person?
Make sure you’re doing what’s best for you and that you are not rushing into things or being pressured by your significant other.
Take some time to prepare mentally; it can be nerve-racking for a long-distance relationship meeting for the first time at the airport, so make sure you’ve thought this over well before you get to that point.
Do your research on his country’s laws, culture, and people; be honest with yourself on whether or not it’s somewhere you could genuinely enjoy being, or if the only thing you can find to like about the place is him.
Research the person you’re going to see, google his name and see if any concerning information comes to light.
Ask about his job, family, and friends; have video calls with him while he’s around them to meet them, and learn more about the people in his life because they’ll soon be in yours.
Look up the company he works for to discover more about him; you should always vet the company you keep for your protection.
Also, in the interest of being safe, ensure your family knows where you are and who is with you.
Have constant planned video calls, update on your location, send them your location regularly.
Make sure your family has as much information about the person you are with, such as their photos, name, address, phone number, and place of employment.
Plan out the small details together, and see if this is something you can do.
Figure out if meeting up is financially possible for the two of you.
Will you be staying at his place or in a hotel, and what will be your day-to-day expenses?
Do the two of you argue a lot, disagree on things constantly, and never really find any compromise?
Or do the two of you make time for each other, have a lot in common, both can discuss conflicts calmly and rationally, and generally work well with each other; on top of knowing a lot about each other’s interests, flaws, and past.
I have a friend from Sweden that moved to America to be with the guy she’s dating, and the two of them are currently very happy together!
She mentioned they discussed everything, cleaning habits, and cultural differences; in Sweden, it’s normal not to wear shoes in the house, but it’s common in America.
Her significant other decided to compromise to make her more comfortable and started wearing house shoes inside instead of outside shoes.
Every relationship is about to give and take, and all have the possibility of working out.
However, that’s not the case for every relation.
Some relationships fail, while others succeed; it’s just a part of life.
There‘s no way to know for sure, but so long as you take off the rose-tinted glasses and go into this with a clear mind, you can catch red flags or incompatibilities while limiting the chances of making the wrong judgment about your relationship.
You might even realize that you can visit him or even go live in his country; there is a world of possibilities if you open yourself up to them, so long as you do it safely.
Who Should Visit Who?
You guys should discuss early on, honestly consider who should visit who; you might be wondering should I go visit him first, or should he be the one coming to see me?
You should consider the safest and most affordable option. If it’s cheaper for him to visit you, then you two should discuss that.
However, if, in fact, that logistically it’s better for you to travel to him, then so long as you’re comfortable with it, you should think about it.
Truly think about it, though, because when a guy offers to fly you out, it can be hard to say no.
His doing this could put pressure on you and cause you to wonder should I travel to see him.
You should operate on your timeline and what works best for you; if he’s rushing this, he may try to do something that will hurry your decision to meet him.
Like if he surprises you with a first-class ticket, you might feel obligated thinking, well, he bought me a ticket to visit him; maybe I should just go?
Don’t do that; never let a guy push you into something if you’re not ready.
So be sure to take the proper time to consider all of your options and make the best decision.
How to Prepare for the Trip?
First things first, before you make plans for the big day, you need to get all of your affairs back home in order.
If it’s a short-term trip, plan to take a vacation from work; if it’s long-term/possibly indefinite, then put in a two weeks notice after you’ve already found a new job in the place you’re moving to.
For short-term visiting, make sure you have planned out decisions on where you will be staying?
Consider the price of your hotel.
If you are planning on staying with your significant other, make sure you guys discuss the following:
- Personal levels of cleanliness
- Boundaries and pet peeves
- Compatibility in general
Prepare for your meeting too!
It will probably be slightly emotional to meet someone that you have all these feelings for in person for the first time.
There are dozens of long-distance relationship meeting compilations online, and you can see that people surprisingly can become emotional, so be ready for that as it might hit you unexpectedly.
Also, make sure you constantly look after yourself, feelings, and happiness while you’re there.
If your significant other and his close friends and family are the only people you know when you arrive, make sure to keep a strong bond with your support system back home!
Call your parents, siblings, other relatives, and friends daily; make sure you don’t feel isolated from them.
Take some time while you’re there with him to think, and make sure that living there is something you’d want to do and that you’re happy.
There is a lot to consider when traveling to meet someone you’re romantically interested in, especially when they live in another country!
Again the main things to think about are:
- Should you even be considering going all this way for your significant other?
- Have you thoroughly discussed who should visit who, and why?
- How prepared are you to make the trip?
Once you’ve thought about all of these things, if you’ve decided it’s best for you, then go out there, and give it a whirl!