When a Guy Says Another Girl Is Hot in Front of You

Is he trying to make me jealous by talking to another girl?

Before I met my boyfriend, I was a very jealous girlfriend.

In fact, if you were to tell my exes that I am secure and not envious of others anymore they wouldn’t believe it.

I used to get mad at my exes for mentioning a female co-worker, for admiring a female celebrity, if it involved another female, I would get jealous. 

Although, my ex would purposely try and get me jealous to get a reaction from me. 

He once invited his female co-worker over to watch Marvel movies with us even though he knew how special the movies were to me and that I wanted to watch them alone with him.

I was very moody the whole evening and freaked out on him after she left.

We broke up shortly after and then the two of them began dating!

Clearly, my insecurities were there for a reason. 

I was a very insecure young lady when I met my current boyfriend and at the beginning of our relationship I used to sulk and get moody whenever he mentioned a childhood friend who happened to be a girl or talk about how he had lunch with a female coworker (as a group, not one on one) yet, I would still get so jealous. 

The only way I knew how to get a guy to show he cared was to try and get them jealous and after one afternoon of trying to goad my guy into jealousy to get a reaction out of him, he sat me down, took my hand, and said, “I’m not a jealous guy.

It isn’t because I don’t care.

It is because I trust you.

I have confidence in us as a couple. You don’t need to test me for me to show you that I care.”

That was such an adult response. 

My boyfriend saying that to me was way better than any “I love you” or jealous reaction I could have asked for.

Knowing that he trusted me implicitly made me fall in love with him even more and, I put all my trust in him that day and opened up my heart to love again.  

If my guy talks about other women in front of me, I would be cool with it.

I know how crazy and silly that sounds.

A guy could say another girl is cute in front of me and I would probably either agree or disagree with him. 

The reason why that is my reaction is that I am in a healthy, honest, and communicative relationship.

When you are in a relationship the two of you have to trust each other.

Your partner should be the one person you never keep any secrets from.

They are who you are choosing to share your life with.

What to do when a guy says another girl is cute in front of you

We were out the other day and an attractive girl passed by.

A very, very attractive girl. I caught my guy looking, but that’s because I was also looking too.

There isn’t anything wrong with admiring beauty.

It’s human nature to want to look at an attractive person but beauty is not skin deep.

It is superficial.

 Checking out a hot girl’s behind doesn’t equal love.  

To me, admiring an attractive person is the same thing as admiring a beautiful sweater in a magazine.

The sweater looks gorgeous and you think it might look good on you but you don’t really know how it feels on the inside and you don’t really care because you have your favorite sweater that you have had forever and can rely on.

You love your familiar and comfy sweater.

My boyfriend doesn’t love me because I am beautiful, although I am sure it helps.

He loves me for who I am on the inside.

Why does he mention another girl in front of me?

There could be a lot of reasons why a guy would talk about other women in front of you.

She can be:

He could want to share a funny story or memory with you.

  If you are a jealous person instead of getting jealous like you normally would, you can change your way of thinking and tell yourself how wonderful it is that he wants to include you in his life.  

Why would a guy tell you about another girl? 

If you think your guy is trying to make you jealous by talking about another girl, that is a whole other issue.

If you are in a secure and mature relationship then there shouldn’t be any games.

I had an ex with who I would play those games.

We were always liking someone else’s pictures on Instagram, talking about the really cute and fun co-worker.

We would instigate each other.

Our relationship was a disaster.

I didn’t know any better though, to me love meant jealousy.

Jealousy shows he cares, right?

No.

I thought jealousy meant being in love.

It doesn’t.

What does it mean when a guy compliments another girl in front of you?

If a guy compliments another girl in front of you and you get jealous, whether he does it intentionally or not, you two have to talk about it.

Communication is key in a healthy, happy relationship.

Most likely, your guy has no idea you feel that way and you holding in those jealous feelings is not good for you mentally or healthy for your relationship.

Explain to your boyfriend how you feel when he says those things and give him a chance to explain himself.

Your feelings are valid so don’t hold them in.

They deserve to be told. 

Now listen, your feelings matter and deserve to be said but, they need to be said in a calm manner.

Acting out on those jealous feelings will just cause a fight.

Take a few deep breaths and think out what you want to say, maybe even write it down.

While you’re writing down what you want to say and doing some self-reflection you might come to the realization there was never anything to be upset about in the first place. 

Why does he talk about other women in front of you, like celebrities?

Also, if you get jealous over a celebrity he is talking about, don’t.

It literally means nothing. Just think of all those times you fantasized about Chris Evans behind those Captain America pants.

It’s a fantasy.

So next time you catch your guy checking out Scarlett Johanson’s butt in a movie poster, just tease him about it and laugh and move on.

Your relationship and life together are real. 

If your man does know how you feel and he is doing it on purpose then you need to speak to him and find out what is going on.

Most likely, he is feeling insecure for some reason.

He might be bringing baggage with him from a past relationship.

Maybe his exes never spent time with him or he didn’t feel loved by them.

Reassure him that you love him and that if he feels he needs your attention, there are more positive ways to get it.

If you feel that you could be giving him more attention then maybe plan more activities on the weekends for the two of you to do together. 

If your guy continues this behavior such as my boyfriend won’t cut ties with his ex, it might be best to end the relationship before the behavior gets any worse. Relationship games are for high school, not for grownups.

In conclusion, to avoid jealous behavior and to help reduce any jealous feelings you may have, follow these rules: 

• Do not act out on your jealous feelings! That will start a fight. Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill. 

• Calm down. Take some deep breaths, go for a walk, write down your feelings. Staying calm is key.

• Speak to your partner, in a calm way, about the way you feel. Try and get to the bottom of why you feel this way or why he is trying to make you jealous. Talk everything out. Leave everything on the floor. 

• Remember, you are a rockstar. Your guy chose you to spend his free time with. Out of all the people in the world, you were chosen. That is incredible. You are incredible. Remember that. 

• Don’t bring your past relationship into your new one. Your current guy is not your ex and, that is not fair to him to treat him that way. New relationship, fresh start. 

• This guy hasn’t done anything yet. Don’t blame him for something he hasn’t even done. Talking about his girlfriends from work or video games with you is him sharing his life with you. Don’t get jealous but embrace that he is letting you into his personal life. 

Once again remember, you are amazing.

You deserve to be happy.

If you love this guy and he loves you, him checking out a girl’s butt isn’t going to ruin that. 

What can ruin it is when this happens: why is my boyfriend losing interest in me sexually.